It's a part of almost every adult's life: You meet the one you love and you're ready to take that next huge step: moving in together. It'll be great -- you'll save money, decorate together and have the best bond ever.
While moving in with your significant other is a great phase in your life, you'll need to prepare yourself for some minor obstacles. Debra Macleod, a former couples’ mediator, says in order to prevent major blowups down the line, couples must discuss the reasons why you're moving in together, how you're going to divide up rent, utilities and groceries and how you're going to schedule housework.
Along with the advice, there are also furniture and space compromises and guidelines that must be made when you make this kind of move, so Will Saks, a designer from Homepolish, gave us all the design tips every couple needs to know.
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Sunday, November 16, 2014
It's me
I just discovered Spotify has some very sweet and romantic music for you and your honey. Just a tip.
Thursday, October 23, 2014
The Best Advice For Moving On When Your Ex Left You For Someone Else
The only thing harder than getting through the emotional roller coaster that is divorce? Getting through it when you know your ex has moved on with someone new.
Below, HuffPost Divorce readers share their best advice for moving on when your ex has left you for someone else.
1. "Take it one day at a time. Know that there was nothing you could have done differently. They made the choice to leave you for someone else."
2. "Whatever you do, don't try to get your ex back. Just leave them alone. And for the love of all that's good and holy, do not poke around their Facebook page. It's self-inflicted torture. Give yourself time to feel your way through everything. It is hard at first, but take it from me -- it gets better."
3. "Don't cave into the pressure to let go and move on. The hardest thing for people on the outside to understand is that there is no timeline for getting through this."
4. "First, don't go after the other woman or man -- they didn't make the oath to you. Anger and frustration can fester and in the end it only hurts you. Find an outlet and get those feelings out. You didn't cheat, your ex did. Mourn the loss of him and your marriage, then go forward. You have to do this alone for a while, so hold off on that new relationship."
5. "This too shall pass. No one ever dies from a divorce."
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Below, HuffPost Divorce readers share their best advice for moving on when your ex has left you for someone else.
1. "Take it one day at a time. Know that there was nothing you could have done differently. They made the choice to leave you for someone else."
2. "Whatever you do, don't try to get your ex back. Just leave them alone. And for the love of all that's good and holy, do not poke around their Facebook page. It's self-inflicted torture. Give yourself time to feel your way through everything. It is hard at first, but take it from me -- it gets better."
3. "Don't cave into the pressure to let go and move on. The hardest thing for people on the outside to understand is that there is no timeline for getting through this."
4. "First, don't go after the other woman or man -- they didn't make the oath to you. Anger and frustration can fester and in the end it only hurts you. Find an outlet and get those feelings out. You didn't cheat, your ex did. Mourn the loss of him and your marriage, then go forward. You have to do this alone for a while, so hold off on that new relationship."
5. "This too shall pass. No one ever dies from a divorce."
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There's An Online Dating 'Tipping Point,' According To A New Study
The rules of dating are not simple and finite -- they're complicated and constantly changing, especially when you factor in online dating. Now, a new study has unearthed yet another thing you could be getting wrong: Online daters can doom themselves to disappointment if they wait too long to meet prospective partners in person.
A new study published recently in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication describes an online dating "tipping point," when too much online communication before a first date causes a person to idealize someone they're interacting with prior to actually meeting them face to face. This, naturally, leads to a letdown upon meeting someone who doesn't match lofty expectations. That "tipping point" occurs after 17 to 23 days, according to the researchers, so you don't want to wait longer than that to pencil in a get-together.
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A new study published recently in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication describes an online dating "tipping point," when too much online communication before a first date causes a person to idealize someone they're interacting with prior to actually meeting them face to face. This, naturally, leads to a letdown upon meeting someone who doesn't match lofty expectations. That "tipping point" occurs after 17 to 23 days, according to the researchers, so you don't want to wait longer than that to pencil in a get-together.
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Sunday, January 19, 2014
"10 Habits of Happy Couples"
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"10 Habits of Happy Couples"
1. Go to bed at the same time
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.
2. Cultivate common interests
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
3. Walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.
6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
9. Do a “weather” check during the day
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.
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Source connotativewords:
"10 Habits of Happy Couples"
1. Go to bed at the same time
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.
2. Cultivate common interests
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
3. Walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.
6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
9. Do a “weather” check during the day
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.
(via
TumbleOn
)
Sunday, November 24, 2013
This Map Shows The Average Marrying Age Around The World
The map, which uses data provided by the United Nations, shows the average age -- by country -- at which people get hitched.
"The biggest differentiator of marriage age seems to be a country's income, with people in developed countries marrying later," writes the price comparison website of the data. "Nordic countries and Western Europe rank among the highest for mean age at marriage at above 30 years. Afghanistan has one of the lowest at 20.2 years."
In the United States, the average marrying age for women is 26.9 and for men it's 29.8, per a 2011 report by the Pew Research Center.
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"The biggest differentiator of marriage age seems to be a country's income, with people in developed countries marrying later," writes the price comparison website of the data. "Nordic countries and Western Europe rank among the highest for mean age at marriage at above 30 years. Afghanistan has one of the lowest at 20.2 years."
In the United States, the average marrying age for women is 26.9 and for men it's 29.8, per a 2011 report by the Pew Research Center.
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Sunday, October 06, 2013
WATCH: Can You Feel Love and Lust for the Same Person?
Allow me to ask you a different set of questions I attempt to address in my TEDTalk, to help tease out the nature of erotic desire and its accompanying conundrums:
- Why does good sex so often fade, even in couples who continue to love each other as much as ever?
- Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex?
- Can we want what we already have?
- Why does the transition to parenthood so often deliver a fatal erotic blow to the couple?
- And why is the forbidden so erotic?
- When you love, how do you feel, and when you desire, how is it different?
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- Why does good sex so often fade, even in couples who continue to love each other as much as ever?
- Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex?
- Can we want what we already have?
- Why does the transition to parenthood so often deliver a fatal erotic blow to the couple?
- And why is the forbidden so erotic?
- When you love, how do you feel, and when you desire, how is it different?
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Saturday, September 07, 2013
12 Habits of a Happy relationship
#12 Settle disputes peacefully
When you feel anger, avoid saying or yelling words you can't take back, instead have a planned agreement that you each will back away.
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Sunday, August 11, 2013
Nobody knew how the clitoris really worked until four years ago
The clitoris. For thousands of years, humans (some of them, anyway) have known that you can give pleasure to its owner if you play with it in the right way. But it wasn't until 2009 that science understood how it actually worked. Discover... the Mystery of the Clit!
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